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I've been coaching for a while now at the ABCs of Attraction and I really wanted to share a tip that I think will REALLY transform your game.

No..... it's not a routine, it's not a magic trick, or a line or anything like that, it's actually something WAY better and will ACTUALLY transform your game.

As an athlete, it's always baffled me when I see products like "Carve Abs In Your Bed", or the "New P90X training system" or some magic remedy for being overweight. It's always been so simple to me and there is absolutely NO substitute for going to the gym everyday and just dieting properly. I had a friend who started working out with me as of late and after our workout, he's eating pizza. He's not a dumb guy by any means, he's in med school and academically speaking, probably one of the smartest guys I know. It just amazes me how the typical person can overlook simple details when it comes to their long term development.

Aside from taking a bootcamp and perhaps reading a book or two, there really isn't much you need, just your spare time, perhaps some money for a new wardrobe and active participation in the forums.

So, what will make us good at pick up? I'm a firm believer that a game plan needs to be simple, otherwise it won't work, and well, this is well exemplified in field. When I was on the set of VH1, and I'm sure that it had more to do with the producers than Mystery/Matador, but they taught us tactics for 8 hours straight, objectively speaking, it was just information overload and well, speaking for myself, I did absolutely awful that night and got eliminated.

With a work, if you do X amount of sets at X amount of reps and you gradually increase the weight over time, you'll get bigger, it's as simple as that, there's no magic pill or gimmick, that's all you need to do. 

9/10 guys get into the game and very rarely do they gauge their progress, they simply go out 5-6 times, try a few openers, realize that getting rejected sucks and they retreat to the comfort of where they first started. 

When I first got started, I realized it was going to suck, and well, it did......... and there were some nights where I really wanted to quit, but I just treated it like a work out.

For the first few weeks in pick up, I did nothing but open 10 sets a night, didn't matter if they went well, as long as I did it and got over my approach anxiety, then I completed my goal.

Over time.... I would "increase the weight", so after a month, once my AA became very manageable, my new goal would be to hook 5 sets in a given night. To keep myself in check, I always went out with a wing and if I didn't hit my goal, he got paid off. So for every set I missed, I paid him $40. It's funny how you won't make an approach for the shear need of passing on your genetics, but as soon as you assign a monetary incentive to it, well, you'll see it through 10/10 times. 

I truly believe that if every guy could get out consistently and do 6-8 sets a day in conjunction with a field report, 90% of guys would reach their goals in a timely fashion. So instead of focusing on what opener you're going to use tonight or that new peacocking accessory, really focus on making sure that you hit your desired goal for the night. If you take care of today, tomorrow will take care of itself.