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Had a chat with a client today and I thought I've been meaning to get this off my chest but it just keeps slipping my mind for whatever reason. 

"Perception is Reality"

-Mystery

People read that quote and while it makes sense to them at face value, very few guys actually heed the advice and many fail to realize how big a detriment low perceived value can be to their game.

Everytime I log onto The Venusian Arts board, I see the exact same post OVER and OVER again. 

"I tried Mystery's push/pull tactics and the girl blew me out and thought I was wierd"

"I tried negging and ignoring this girl and she never came back"

"I tried xyz opener and still  got blown out"

All of these guys have the EXACT same problem. It has absolutely nothing to do with the verbiage and EVERYTHING to do with their perceived value. Let me explain.....

I'm pretty convinced that girls have eyes in the back of their hands, perhaps on their ears and the top of their heads to. They see just about everything you do. If you've been wallflowering for the past 5 minutes, they make note of that. It's been psychologically proven, if they can sniff out non-verbal cues 4x better than men can. If you've spent the last 10 minutes mustering up the balls and you sound slightly nervous, she'll know and she'll blow you out of set mercilessly. That's the great part of night club game compared to social circle game, the feedback you get is entirely accurate and you'll find out where you stand after you first night out. 

Mystery calls it social proof, call it whatever you want, but essentially what I'm getting at is that you need to be VERY aware of your perceived value when you walk in a club. 

1. Are you well dressed, do you look like a guy that gets laid or do you look disheveled and like you just got done playing 8 hours of World of Warcraft? Did you take care of your hair? Did you remove any excess hair and keep your nails trim? Is you acne wicked bad?

2. How's your body language? Are you slouching? Are you smiling? What does your current facial expression say about your current mental status?

3. Who did you roll into the club with? Did you roll into the club a bunch of lame guys or did you bring 3 gorgeous women to the venue?

4.Who are you talking to? Are you having a good time? Are you actually ADDING fun/value to other sets? 

What kind of picture to paint in the girls mind before you even approach her. Are you a guy that's even worth talking to? If the answer is no, then it's time to take a step back. If you were trying to sell your car, you'd get it cleaned, vacuumed, and waxed would you not? Well this is your body we're talking here, let's get ourselves in the best presentable shape before we try selling ourselves.

So next time a girl doesn't pay attention to you or thinks your weird, don't blame her or call her a bitch for it. Like Neil say's, it's all feedback, don't take it personally. She doesn't despise you as a person, she just didn't like what was presented to her in your approach. Dust yourself off, learn from your mistakes, and try again.