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Lookin and Dressin good!

Okay, not looking to sound like Sarah Jessica Parker in this entry, but I do want to address fashion and just dressing well in general.

So let’s analyze the average chump at a bar or night club….. chances are, he’s wearing an old pair of black dress shoes, some relatively baggy jeans and some wrinkly ass American Eagle dress shirt that he bought a few years back at some clearance sale in an outlet store.

That guy above, that’s me =), well, three years back before I was on the show. I was just like every guy, just “doing what I needed to get by”.

Dressing well will do a lot for you. First off it conveys a lot about you as a person. If your outfit fits you well, not only will you look spectacular, but it demonstrates to the opposite sex that you ACTUALLY spend the time to take care of yourself and groom yourself properly. In my personal opinion, girls spend way too much time getting ready. The girl I dated back in L.A, before we’d go to parties, I’d have to drop her off back at the pad around 6:00 P.M so that she could get doll’d up. Three and a half hours later, she went from a 7.5 to a dime. So if girls spend so much time getting ready, imagine how much they judge YOU on the way you dress.

For all you Asians out there, yes, I’m cheap, actually, I’m EXTREMELY cheap, borderline jewish, and initially it took me a LOT of convincing to invest in some nice outfits. Granted, VH1 gave me some nice stuff for being on set, I did spend a healthy wad buying some additional garb after the show. If you’re serious about pick up, get serious about your fashion, you don’t need to become a fashion columnist, but get at least 4-5 cool outfits you can wear out and be sure to groom yourself beforehand and make sure you’re smellin nice. Seriously, spend the few bucks now, it’ll save you from unnecessary female rejection.

Some general guidelines when you’re building your “avatar”.

1. Make sure your clothes are form fitting.

Baggy jeans were cool in the 90’s, if you were baggy jeans to a club, you better be black or have thug like qualities, otherwise you probably won’t pull them off and just come across as trashy. For me, I work out consistently and my chest is significantly larger, so every single outfit I get, I get tailored. It’s an extra 10 dollars and it’ll make your clothing fit your body seamlessly. Spend the extra 10 dollars, better you spend it there then at Popeyes after a brutal night of getting blown out of sets.

2. Adapt to your environment

Mystery is mystery, and through his television fame and his wicked game, he’s able to pull off what he has, a lot of people give him sass for the way he dresses and for good reason, it’s a LOT. I honestly dare you to walk into a club with a cowboy hat, boa, aviators, and 7 inch platform boots and make it out alive. Now, most of my outfits are adapted to the Hollywood nightlife scene, I would consider myself to be “fashionably edgy”. If I walk by a girl, she’ll look twice, but I’m careful not to cross the barrier to which she’ll perceive me as a clown. Now that I live in Orlando, I don’t wear the same outfits and my avatar is a little diluted. I’ll still rock the same jeans but I’ll replace the top with a nice shirt or polo and cut out the accessories. The key point I’m getting across here is to dress just one notch above what’s considered the “norm”

3. Make sure you feel good yet don’t be afraid to break out of your comfort zone.

When I was introduced to the concept of tighter jeans, I cringed, I couldn’t help be feel like a   complete homo when I was out and about and the I honestly had to have a drink or two just to feel normal again. After a while, I grew to like them, and the tight pair of jeans I bought on Melrose are now my favorite jeans to wear out period. Matador also gave me a wrist band after the show which I was reluctant to wear when I first went out, I couldn’t help but to feel like a Mortal Kombat character, but after getting a few compliments and adding a DHV story to the item, it’s now part of my nightly attire.

So now that you’re done reading this, you’re thinking “wow, you haven’t told me sh*t”, I still have no idea what to buy. That’s the feeling I was left with when I got kicked off the show, wasn’t sure how to proceed. Every body has different tastes in clothing and fashion. I dress differently and am distinct from any other PUA, remember, you’re a “pick up artist”, to some degree, your tastes/preferences and discretion will dictate your development and that applies to your fashion sense as well. Understand that there will be a degree of trial and error and you will have those thoughts of “jesus, I spent $50 on that shirt and I totally hate it”. That’s the price you pay for a TRULY nice wardrobe, it will take some money and even more important, some time. But pay attention to the part of pick up and I guarantee you, this investment will be one that pays off in huge dividends.

I also want to address hair, I didn’t really realize how many important my hair was until I actually got a cool haircut and realized how much easier it was to pick up. I was the same guy with the same game, and with a  cool haircut, both girls and guys were a lot more receptive to me. If you look at my last blog post, I had the generic asian buzz cut. You take your clippers, put the #2 length setting on and go all the way around. If you’re currently doing this, STOP. Please, for the love of god, spend the $20, go to a professional salon and get a half decent haircut and if you’re not an expert, ask your hair stylist for advice. Right now, I currently rock the fohawk, with some highlights occasionally depending on my mood. It’s not crazy, but what it accomplishes is that it conveys the fact that I’m not the next cookie cutter generic asian guy.  I’ve pasted some examples below, I think the guy in the middle and DJ Fuji’s hair (right) are a little too extreme for my tastes (remember, we’re in L.A), but I think JT(Left) pulls off the bloodhawk pretty well.

In regards to accessories, the guys at VA are pretty adamant about them, but again, always adapt to your environment. When I’m in L.A, I’ll rock the entire outfit, vest, dogtags, wrist bands, funky belt buckle, and its all good, because its L.A and people dress crazy already. In other major cities, I’ll definitely tone it down a notch, as described in the first paragraphs. Have some fun with it, you can start on ebay, random accessories aren’t expensive items, people will often ask you about them, and if you have a DHV story ready to back it up, that buys you more game time.