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Physical Escalation,

This is by and far one of the most difficult part in pick up for the vast majority of men out there. I find that there are plenty of guys out there that can socialize/open well and even get pretty deep into the interaction, but when it comes to the “rubber meeting the road”, when it comes to making that transition and stating your intentions that you are no longer just that “cool guy” and that you are more than that, that’s where most PUAs fall apart and are unsure of what to do.

I like Mystery’s idea of the kino escalation ladder and throwing in compliance tests to gauage her interest along the way, it definitely does well in setting up a template for what to do, but I during my learning stage, I didn’t get too many concrete examples on EXACTLY what I had to do to properly run his “kino escalation”.

One thing that I absolutely hate about pick up is the all round debate and inconcsistencies with teachings from various companies. It’s kind of like soybeans in the health industry. If you google it, you’ll get articles on why its amazing and can probably cure cancer and then you’ll read articles about it being satan’s bean. Quite frankly, as a “consumer”, I really don’t care, I just want what works, plain and simple. With kino escalation, if you look at various teaching systems, you’ll often find different advice and often times it contradicts one another.

Let me give you an example, on the last episodes of  Pick Up Artist Season two, Simeon got a lot of fire from Mystery because he would try to kino a girl by touching her shoulder and he would just leave his hand there, just lingering creepily, yet in Keys to the VIP, Cajun does the EXACT same thing, by touching a girl and leaving his hand there and one of the “board members” calls it a compliance test. The point I’m trying to get at here, is EXERCISE SOME COMMON SENSE. In this specific instance, it IS creepy when you just meet a girl and you’re leaving your hands all over her. It’s weird, you know it, she knows it and it’s going to get you blown out. So next time you’re trying to kino, just ask yourself, does it feel creepy? Chances are if it does, it probably is, your emotive system is the product of millions of years of evolution, USE IT. Touching/holding/embracing should be a natural thing that you should assign little thought or effort to (once you properly implement the steps obviously). Once you hit the C phase in the Attraction, it just becomes natural, seamless. Me & Greg working some magic at Opera out in Hollywood.

So what are some specific things you can do to ease it in the kino? I found Lovedrop’s kino breakout session extremely helpful with kino escalation in terms of applying general kino and gradually making the transition towards more sexual kino. One of the core concepts he covers is that having good banter(social) game is absolutely key in having proper kino escalation.

For those of you that have taken a VA bootcamp before, you’re aware of the “stripper name” routine that he demonstrates. He walks in, BT spikes the set and in that small window of opportunity where everyone’s laughing, he goes applies his kino move, in this case, hugging the girl and playfully biting her neck. So understand that if you can’t approach or banter well, don’t bother trying to kino, take a step back and re-evaluate.

Something I’m surprised that isn’t mentioned more often are socially acceptable ways of just touching people. I see all the top PUAs do them and they were as an EXCELLENT primer for larger investment moves (k closes), and the best part is, they’re socially acceptable, they’re NOT weird and society has done the work for you in “breaking them in” and as a matter of fact, you may already do them in your daily routine.

Remember, when it comes to pick up, I’m a heavy advocate of keeping things simple, it’s tough enough dealing with your emotions/anxiety as is, trying to micromanage a situation on top of it will cause you to short circuit. Three basic ways to break that physical barrier if you’re struggling to physically escalate:

1. Hugging
2. Kisssing on the cheek
3. Holding Hands while leading (later on in interaction)

Hugging is the easiest one, I hug just about every girl and pretty much ( no homo ) every guy I come across (works as a good amog tool too). Girls are so used to getting hugged, it’s almost second nature to them, if you so as much as put yourself in something with a remote semblance of hugging a girl automatically knows. Again, EVERY top PUA I know hugs. Again, I know this isn’t some fancy Annihilation BT sparkplug purekino patented technology kino tactic, it’s a simple basic pick up 101 tool that everyone should have in every interaction. So get used to hugging, hug every girl you comes across.

Kissing on the cheek is actually a lot easier and a lot less weird than you actually think. I remember doing it the first time and I thought to myself (oh, that wasn’t too bad) and after you do it a few times and the girl reacts positively, you’ll start to incorporate this “move” more often in your interactions. I got this idea from Matador and he gave a great breakdown of what this one simple move conveys and I give him immense credit for it. First, it conveys that you’re NOT just a friend, not through words, but by your actions, and especially early on the interaction if you apply it, it’s an indirect “preselection” switch hitter. She knows that she’s not the first girl that you’ve kissed on the cheek and knows there have been plenty before her and probably plenty more to come. Most importantly, it conveys that you’re confident with your sexuality, if you can apply this right after opening, you’re exploiting this “socially acceptable” move and showing her that you have the balls to take it further. Try it out sometime, again, this is something I use on pretty much every set.

Holding hands (as cliché, lame and middlechool as it sounds) is something you can apply later on in the set, once you’ve hit the comfort stage and she’s “cool” with you, feel free to hold hands or rather, feel free to LEAD her. When you’re walking around the venue with her, take charge, hold our hand out, apply some social pressure, if she passes this compliance test, it REALLY means she’s cool with you, and for the most part if I have a girl pass this compliance test, kissing or making out isn’t hat big of a deal. It also gives that boyfriend/girlfriend dynamic to the interaction, makes you feel closer to one another even though you just met.

All in all, I apply these three simple moves to all my sets, there’s no need to reinvent the wheel, society has already made these socially acceptable, so why fight the current, ride it.  Of course I have different variations with how I escalate in every set, but that type of situational awareness comes with practice and time, but if you’re just starting out, just follow those simple steps, and they’ll help you form a foundation for “fancier” game later on.