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Looking at the big picture.

So I had a 1 on 1 coaching program this past weekend and it was very enjoyable as they all are. He was a real young guy and quite frankly, he was definitely one of the cooler asian guys that I’ve met in my life, he’s got his head on straight and I can definitely tell that he’ll go far in life. If you’re reading this now, as long as you stay consistent and persistent, success will be inevitable for you.

So I coached a little different this past weekend, instead of bombarding the client with theory and what have you, I gave him a lot more exercises and more of a “principles” approach to pick up, which I found was much more beneficial for myself and is something that Matador teaches in his bootcamps and found very useful during my progression early on my career.

This weekend, I realized that something isn’t really given too much attention at bootcamps and should REALLY be addressed. One reason I do like the ABC’s is because it features the holistic point of view in approaching the subject as opposed to narrow tunnel vision. Also, if you’re going to do something, commit to it, do it right, otherwise don’t do it at all. You might as well not go to the gym period if you just go 3 times and quit afterwards.

I feel that with most programs that I’ve taken in the past, none of them take enough time to really pay attention  to other areas in life that affect your pick up abilities. While I do understand that the point of the bootcamp isn’t supposed to teach good exercise/diet, I would most certainly make the argument that if the goal of the bootcamp is to most efficiently help the client acquire women efficiently, other areas (which I will discuss) should be included in the curriculum.

For all you economic heads out there, I think the concept of decreasing marginal utility really applies to pickup. So for those that are not familiar with the concept, here’s an example. When you’re learning a skill, the effort put in to the amount learned is much higher than say 6 years own the road, when you’ve mastered a skill, its difficult to improve on it.

Similarly to pickup, there’s only so much you can truly micromanage in pickup. Now theoretically, you could be the ultimate master PUA, you could be the ugliest dude on the planet and still get the hottest girls because you’ve mastered and honed your skills down to the dime. Is this what you really want? Do you REALLY want to be a master PUA? Probably not, most guys get into this to just improve their dating life, that’s it, they’re not here to impress anyone or prove anything and this includes me. I want the most efficient way to from point A to point B and no bullshit.

1. Most bootcamps don’t really address fitness, I’ll see fat guy try and run pickup all the time and while I won’t say they don’t any results period, in terms of efficiency I don’t understand why they aren’t actively trying to lose weight. Everytime they go out, it’s an uphill battle for them. Why make it so difficult on yourself? Action Step : Get cut, put on some muscle weight.

2. Something else I see is people that go out alone, and YES, you can run good pickup out on your own, but again, why are you making it so hard on yourself? Being a good pick up artist is also being a good social artist, if you cannot make friends and be that fun cool guy, not only are you making it hard on yourself but I’d make an argument that ANY girl of substantial value would never be attracted to you. Action Step : Build the Entourage.

3. When I first got into pick up, I won’t say his name, but he just refused to dress or groom himself well and he had wicked terrible acne. His rationale was, if he gets his pickup skills to a great level, he shouldn’t need to address these problems. This is terribly wrong. Again, he was making this so difficult on himself. Action Step: Start formulating a style that’s congruent with your personality

4. Last but not least, I don’t see a lot of guys that really just put the time and effort into this period. The only reason I got to where I am was because I went out 5-6 nights a week and though it sucked the first two months, after a while it becomes fun and actually addicting. Plenty of guys out there have jobs that only permit them to go out 2 nights a week if that. Let’s be real here, if you went to the gym twice a week, how much would that actually do? Pick up is similar, it takes consistent practice to build momentum. There’s a great quote by John C. Maxwell that fits perfectly here: “If you want to see change in your life, you must change something you do daily”. Don’t expect change until you’ve taken consistent and ideally: daily practice.

I hope you see the recurring theme here, if you’re going to do this, put a decent amount of effort here and make sure all your pieces are lined up, otherwise you’re just putting yourself in an extremely difficult situation.

The biggest problem most guys have is that they don’t make the right initial investment, if you think you can just half ass this and make it work, save your time and don’t do it at all.