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What the hell is wrong with asian parents?

I recently just coached a program with APB out in Los Angeles and althoughit had already been a re-ccuring thought in my mind, it just became reallyapparent and almost infuriated me after talking to one of the studentspost-program.

I honestly wonder what it is that is inherently wrong withmost asian parents in general.

I’m going to give three examples, both just happened in thelast month.

I was sitting down with my cousin, she’s about 13 right nowand she’s about that age where she starts flirting and meeting boys and whatnot. I half jokingly ask her if she had a boyfriend, she blushed a little andshe told me about a crush she had on this guy in her class. I told her awesome and of course given my PUA education, I started giving her a small game plan on how to get this guy.

My Uncle eaves-drops for all of about 2 seconds and totally takes a shit in his pants. “How dare you fill my daughter’s head with suchtoxic stuff”, “Don’t pollute my daughter’s mind with that kind of stuff”. I was a little taken back, so I asked him what his solution was on the whole datingscene. He told me that if it were entirely up to him, she wouldn’t date a guy until she finished her PHD in her program. So….. she’ll be roughly 30 before she ever sees a guys weiner.

Just before I left back to Los Angeles from Michigan,I took my brother out to lunch. He’s just starting high school. I asked how life was and it was pretty similar to mine growing up which I can talk about for hours and then I asked him how his friend situation was. He had a real close childhood friend that was asian and I asked him if he had hung out with him recently to which he told me that he hadn’t seen him in months. Apparently, he goes to school 7 days a week and isn’t allowed to hang out with friends because his parents are afraid that him being social will interfere with their grades.

Take one of my childhood friends. I’ll leave his name out here, but we recently sat down and got some food, it’d been roughly 4 years since I saw him last. So we start chattering, and the first couple I ask him are:

1. So how’s it been?
2. How’s the social life here in socal?
3. Any girls peak you interest.

Okay, no exaggeration here, he tells me, no not really, butlet me tell you something awful that happened to me (and he said it reallyenthusiastically), to which I said “what” in utter suspense. “I got C on mycalculus exam”. When he said that phrase to me, the magnitude of importance wasequal to that of a guy realizing he had testicular cancer and was sterile at age 22.

At first I thought he was totally messing with me. He wasn’t, he was genuinely mortified at his math grade.

Okay, I don’t really think I need to defend myself here, there is clearly something wrong with this picture.

Perhaps the second case was a little extreme, but I’m justusing it to make a point here. Especially in asian families, a child is a product largely from their parents’ influence and quite frankly, I really don’t know what they’re trying to accomplish

If I look back on how I was raised, granted, I’m not goingto say they(my parents) were completely off on how to effectively raise a child since they did put me through a good school and spent close to a $100k on my education. So for that I thank them, but that being said, I honestly wonder why it is that asian parents have this giant obsession with education to begin with.

So again, the premise is simple in their eyes. Let’s get ridiculously amazing grades, go to Harvard, graduate with honors and get some awesome high salaried job, viola, live happily ever after.

Throughout growing up, my parents never really gave me the sex talk, it just never came up. I think when I was 18 and had my first girlfriend, my dad told me to be sure to use a condom if I got hanky panky withher, and that was pretty much the extent of sex/flirting education I receivedfrom both my parents.

I read this article recently, sometimes it just aggravates me,the ideas that asian parents instill in their kid’s heads.

http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2009/04/20/1900320.aspx