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The more I look at Mystery Method and pick up in general, I see it as a shortcut that a ton of guys try to take. Again, no discredit to the community in general or anything, but I have met some of the WIERDEST people on the planet via pick up, it's almost like alcoholic anonomymous for relationships.

If you're a guy that's just starting out in pick up, and I mean this in the most constructive way, please take a second and ask yourself if you see yourself as at least a "normal" guy.

1. Do you creep people out?

2. Do you have a lot of friends?

3. Do you have girlfriends (or rather, friends that are girls)?

Really ask yourself and don't let your ego get in the way and just figure out if you just meet the criteria for being a normal cool dude.

I think cold approach pick up is cool and can get you decent results if you're already a pretty cool guy, but what I will say is this, if you're just starting out, whether you're already hella cool or slightly socially awkward, I would suggest just building a solid social group to begin with.

When I first moved to L.A, APB had recommended me to be a club promoter which at the time I sort of dismissd since I had just finished school and I wasn't in an great fiscal position if you will. But in retrospect, this would have been an awesome move, with the show coming out and everything, it would have been great for social networking in the club scene, a great way to meet some solid people when i was out and about.

Anyway, with the show and everything, I managed to get away with it since people recognized us when we went out. In a way, it was a bit of an unfair crutch but anywho, I digress.

Okay!

So you've just started, you read the game, you're inspired and want to make a giant transformation in your dating life and want to have a shit ton of hookups, great.

Before we meet some women, let's take a step back here, let's try and to just make "friends".

Here's the deal with the club scene, you're definitely going to run into a different crowd. Before the club scene, I was more familiar with the college party scene, which was a great primer for the club scene, but it was definitely much different. When you go to your typical social engagement, you already know people or have friends of friends and its usually easier to meet people. Plus you don't really run into PUAs at college parties.

Now the club scene can work in and against your favor. It will be easier to hit on a girls because its much more socially acceptable at clubs, but on the same token, girls will be on higher guard since they get hit on every 2 seconds. This is why I'm a fan of cold approach, it at least sets you in the right path, attitude-wise.

Okay, let's start meeting some people, some people you'll want to be cool with:

1. The Bar-tenders

2. The Promoters

3. Cocktail Waitresses

Pretty much anyone in the staff, find a club you like and make it your watering hole. When you show up, it really should feel like your own backyard. 

Be sure to tip well. I'm asian and I can be a real cheapass sometimes, but tip the staff well and they'll be really cool towards you. That's the first step, befriend the staff.

Second step: be a quasi-promoter.

I had a real good acquaintence in college, he wasn't particularly interesting in a one on one setting, but he was great and making events happen. He was the go to guy for all the parties and everyone knew him. He wans't good looking yet he always had women in his life. 

Make yourself the go to guy, I'm not saying it's going to easy and it definitely takes time, but if you spend time doing this, it'll be much easier than micro-managing situations with women.

It does a lot for you:

1. Social Proofs you, you're the leader of men

2. Keeps you in state

3. Helps you meet women via social circle

Honestly, if you can't make friends, you're not going to get a girl, unless she's missing teeth or something is wrong with her.

Be sure to throw events, organize parties, etc etc, make a name for yourself. 

I see a lot of asian guys that fall into this category, they just work their asses off 80 hours a week and hope to have a girl in their life.

Also, I should have mentioned this earlier. doing pick up takes time. One of my best PUA friends that's great at pick up for one simple reason: he makes time and energy for it.

Pick up will take time/money/resources, If you're working 50+ hours a week, I highly doubt that you can make this happen. So before you proceed forward, I would highly encourage you to make sure you have the time to make this work.

So it's been a year since the show came out ( how time flies ), I just had a good chat with Todd, Brian, and Greg from the show. I think we've all come to the same conclusion. Pick up has been great and all, but at this point, we don't really use routines or anything we initially learned which seems a little irresponsible, but what we did realize is that pick up is not rocket science or some sort of magic formula, its just a means of giving you the motivation to go out and work on your basic social skills.

Instead of reading pick up material, I would definitely encourage you to read some basic books on social dynamics and leadership:

1. Dale Carnigie's "How to Win Friends and Influene People"

2. John C. Maxwell "360 Leader"

Remember, at the end of the day, pick up isn't some sort of magic bullet, it's just a means of changing your atitudes towards dating/flirting and honing your basic social skills, that's it.

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