Pick Up in Practical Terms
For all those starter PUA's out there, I just wanted to simplify pick up in my experience and what this past year has surmounted to and what I thought in retrospect for your educational experience.
I remember when I first found out about pick up. I was sitting on a bus on the way home in the summer of 2007, just broken up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years. I remember coming across this article regarding pick up 101 and Sean Messanger. i thought it was so cool that guys were out there teaching pick up advice for men. I mean, I wasn't horrific with women but I wasn't really good and more importantly, I could have used some improvement. It was shortly after that I discovered the pick up community and ultimately discovered the Mystery Method.
I remember reading his book and thinking "wow", a plethora of all this knowledge complete with charts, formulas, etc etc. I remember flying to vegas not long after for a small vacation with some friends and I remember trying to cram as much of this stuff into my head as possible and I legitimately thought that I could apply this stuff immediately ( a litle naive in retrospect)
So fast forward a year later, I'm off the show and I'm relatiely experienced in this whole pick up scene. I remember thinking to myself: "wait a minute, people have been having sex and men have been picking up women since, well, FOREVER". So then I thought to myself, is the Mystery Method all its hyped up to be.
I had a pretty in depth conversation with Brian, Greg, and Todd from the show and what they thought about their experience with pick up and we all agreed, in the end, all our "training" surmounted to was just being a cool fun guy that was socially open to strangers. All these months of going out, we realized THATS all it boiled down to.
In the beginning, we still used all of our classic openers that we got off the show and nowadays when we go out, we just have fun and things just naturally happen.
In anycase, I'll I'm trying to get across for all the newbies out there, I'm not saying that Mystery Method or pick up is a waste of time, nothing like that, but what I'm trying to convey is that eventually, you just want to epitimoze that fun cool guy at the bar that's willing to talk to anyone, add a proper physical escalation and bam, you've got a pick up artist.
I know for a lot of you out there, using "canned material" is a little awkward, as it should be. It just gives you something to say when you're out and about because the biggest excuse you'll come across is "well, I dont know what to say to her", now you don't have that excuse anymore.
The reason you can become so good at pick up in such a short amount of time is the simple fact that you're having the same interaction over and over again, patterns begin to emerge and you'll find yourself responding on auto pilot.
Eventually, you'll get to a point where you can predict what she'll say and you'll have a witty response lined up for it.
Canned material is not a bad thing by any means, as a matter of fact, I think it's great for starters, it's really difficult to learn natural game without the use of canned material. Eventually though, you want to ween yourself off canned material which will help you "be yourself" which is that same generic advice that everyone keeps giving you to begin with.
I congratulate and thank Mystery for pioneering his entire system, but what I'm really grateful for was his pioneering of the cold approach, people are so used to meeting other people only through friends, which is a great method but limits so many interactions. in the end if you really think about it, a lot of his terminology is just a fancier term for something much simpler ( DHV = bragging appropriately, neg = (technically brining a girl's value down) just teasing a girl). So if it's your first time going out, just realize that you're just having a plain simple human interaction, no need to overcomplicate things wth crazy formula's or algorithms, enjoy the moment and seize the moment.
Happy Hunting!
-Kevin
I remember when I first found out about pick up. I was sitting on a bus on the way home in the summer of 2007, just broken up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years. I remember coming across this article regarding pick up 101 and Sean Messanger. i thought it was so cool that guys were out there teaching pick up advice for men. I mean, I wasn't horrific with women but I wasn't really good and more importantly, I could have used some improvement. It was shortly after that I discovered the pick up community and ultimately discovered the Mystery Method.
I remember reading his book and thinking "wow", a plethora of all this knowledge complete with charts, formulas, etc etc. I remember flying to vegas not long after for a small vacation with some friends and I remember trying to cram as much of this stuff into my head as possible and I legitimately thought that I could apply this stuff immediately ( a litle naive in retrospect)
So fast forward a year later, I'm off the show and I'm relatiely experienced in this whole pick up scene. I remember thinking to myself: "wait a minute, people have been having sex and men have been picking up women since, well, FOREVER". So then I thought to myself, is the Mystery Method all its hyped up to be.
I had a pretty in depth conversation with Brian, Greg, and Todd from the show and what they thought about their experience with pick up and we all agreed, in the end, all our "training" surmounted to was just being a cool fun guy that was socially open to strangers. All these months of going out, we realized THATS all it boiled down to.
In the beginning, we still used all of our classic openers that we got off the show and nowadays when we go out, we just have fun and things just naturally happen.
In anycase, I'll I'm trying to get across for all the newbies out there, I'm not saying that Mystery Method or pick up is a waste of time, nothing like that, but what I'm trying to convey is that eventually, you just want to epitimoze that fun cool guy at the bar that's willing to talk to anyone, add a proper physical escalation and bam, you've got a pick up artist.
I know for a lot of you out there, using "canned material" is a little awkward, as it should be. It just gives you something to say when you're out and about because the biggest excuse you'll come across is "well, I dont know what to say to her", now you don't have that excuse anymore.
The reason you can become so good at pick up in such a short amount of time is the simple fact that you're having the same interaction over and over again, patterns begin to emerge and you'll find yourself responding on auto pilot.
Eventually, you'll get to a point where you can predict what she'll say and you'll have a witty response lined up for it.
Canned material is not a bad thing by any means, as a matter of fact, I think it's great for starters, it's really difficult to learn natural game without the use of canned material. Eventually though, you want to ween yourself off canned material which will help you "be yourself" which is that same generic advice that everyone keeps giving you to begin with.
I congratulate and thank Mystery for pioneering his entire system, but what I'm really grateful for was his pioneering of the cold approach, people are so used to meeting other people only through friends, which is a great method but limits so many interactions. in the end if you really think about it, a lot of his terminology is just a fancier term for something much simpler ( DHV = bragging appropriately, neg = (technically brining a girl's value down) just teasing a girl). So if it's your first time going out, just realize that you're just having a plain simple human interaction, no need to overcomplicate things wth crazy formula's or algorithms, enjoy the moment and seize the moment.
Happy Hunting!
-Kevin
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