Mastering the Approach
I've been getting a lot of questions as late in regards to mastering the approach in pick up. I'd have to say that the approach is arguably the most important step in pick up for many reasons. First off, it establishes your first impression, a girl will size you up in a matter of 30 seconds, she'll essentially know everything she needs to know about you in the first 30 seconds. At that point she'll either blow you off by "going to find her friends", "going to the bathroom", or maybe she's intrigued and now you've got more game time.
The first and most important thing in the approach is coming across with the proper energy levels. Your energy should be slightly higher than the set you're going into because if you're going into a set as a boring drone, they'll blow you out. People go out to have a good time, that's the main reason, if you can go out and give them a good time, show good enthusiasm, and radiate a good vibe towards them, they'll accept you into the group.
So there are a few ways you can approach a set, you can approach directly, indirectly, or situational. The indirect approach is vintage Mystery Method. Classic over the shoulder, opinion opener, conveys very little value and the whole premise is that you don't want to give a set too much value off the get go. This was the way I originally learned the game off the VH1 show, it's field tested by thousands, field tested by myself and totally works. I found indirect game to be really useful when I first started the game because it was lower investment and if I got blown out, I could just proceed onward because it was so low investment to begin with.
Example : "Who lies more, men or women"
The second way to approach is the direct method, which is actually a more powerful way to approach than the indirect method. High risks mean high rewards but also with regards to pick up, means harsh blow outs. It's sometimes referred to as the shotgun method, I find this method great in a target rich environment, it cuts through so much BS, and if you can take the rejection, it'll only work in your favor. I remember the first time I ran direct openers, I was scared shitless, I was like "for real, I really have to tell her she's pretty, crap I'm showin all my cards here", the thought of walking up to a girl and telling her she was gorgeous was absolutely terrifying. After about 4-5 sets that night, I realized it wasn't that big of a deal. For some reason I thought the girls would be rude for whatever reason, turns out they were flattered and just not interested but the ones the were inerested were hooked instantly.
Example: "You are so wicked cute, I just had to come over and say hi"
The last way to approach is the situational opener, I find this useful for warm up sets or sets that seemed a little "burned out" by other PUA's in the area. It'll come across as spontaneous because you're referring to something in the environment. Also, if you're with your social circle in the peripherary, I find situational openers to be a lot more appropriate, nobody wants to be out and associated with "that guy" if you know what I mean.
Example : "I have to say, your dress is super yellow, you're like a giant sexy banana"
All 3 ways work, it's difficult to say that one is better than the other, but rather they vary by situation.
The most important factor when it comes to opening is the delivery. The delivery will make or break everything. I remember working with Lovedrop when I was on the set of VH1's The Pick Up Artist, he told me that it didn't matter what I said in reality. HIm, Mystery, and Neil used to play this game where they would approach a set and see what boring subjects they could get away with. Great example, Mystery game's a girl out on the VH1 set talking about google earth. I mean come on, google f'in earth! If you're enthusiastic, incorporate pauses, changes in your voice intonation and sound generally interesting, it WILL hook the set's attention. This is Mystery's strongest point, it's the fact that he's so captivating, he's one of few people that can talk AT me and still hold my attention for over 45 minutes.
Another Important point with approaching (something taught to me by Asian Playboy), is STICKinG YOUR APPROACH. Too many PUA's out there get nervous before they approach and when they're in set, they still have the jitters. Everytime you approach, stay in your set as long as you can. Great motto "blow me or blow me out". You really need to approach every set as if you KNOW you're going to close the chick out. If you don't go in with that mentality, you'll kill yourself while you're in set.
The final important point in the approach is getting in state. Before I go out, I workout and rock out to loud music, go to the club, get a shot or two ( don't get drunk ), and the bam, I'm ready to game. You want to be the most fun guy at the club when you're there. They always say "fake it till you make it", I respectfully disagree, I don't think that faking it works in the bar, you cant fake having a good time, a girl will pick up on that very quickly, beleive me. My biggest milestone in pick up wasn't getting the #'s, the makeouts, etc etc, it was learning to have a great time in a loud club full of strangers. It's intimidating at first, but learn to have fun when you're there and it'll become much more emotionally sustainable.
Happy Hunting!
The first and most important thing in the approach is coming across with the proper energy levels. Your energy should be slightly higher than the set you're going into because if you're going into a set as a boring drone, they'll blow you out. People go out to have a good time, that's the main reason, if you can go out and give them a good time, show good enthusiasm, and radiate a good vibe towards them, they'll accept you into the group.
So there are a few ways you can approach a set, you can approach directly, indirectly, or situational. The indirect approach is vintage Mystery Method. Classic over the shoulder, opinion opener, conveys very little value and the whole premise is that you don't want to give a set too much value off the get go. This was the way I originally learned the game off the VH1 show, it's field tested by thousands, field tested by myself and totally works. I found indirect game to be really useful when I first started the game because it was lower investment and if I got blown out, I could just proceed onward because it was so low investment to begin with.
Example : "Who lies more, men or women"
The second way to approach is the direct method, which is actually a more powerful way to approach than the indirect method. High risks mean high rewards but also with regards to pick up, means harsh blow outs. It's sometimes referred to as the shotgun method, I find this method great in a target rich environment, it cuts through so much BS, and if you can take the rejection, it'll only work in your favor. I remember the first time I ran direct openers, I was scared shitless, I was like "for real, I really have to tell her she's pretty, crap I'm showin all my cards here", the thought of walking up to a girl and telling her she was gorgeous was absolutely terrifying. After about 4-5 sets that night, I realized it wasn't that big of a deal. For some reason I thought the girls would be rude for whatever reason, turns out they were flattered and just not interested but the ones the were inerested were hooked instantly.
Example: "You are so wicked cute, I just had to come over and say hi"
The last way to approach is the situational opener, I find this useful for warm up sets or sets that seemed a little "burned out" by other PUA's in the area. It'll come across as spontaneous because you're referring to something in the environment. Also, if you're with your social circle in the peripherary, I find situational openers to be a lot more appropriate, nobody wants to be out and associated with "that guy" if you know what I mean.
Example : "I have to say, your dress is super yellow, you're like a giant sexy banana"
All 3 ways work, it's difficult to say that one is better than the other, but rather they vary by situation.
The most important factor when it comes to opening is the delivery. The delivery will make or break everything. I remember working with Lovedrop when I was on the set of VH1's The Pick Up Artist, he told me that it didn't matter what I said in reality. HIm, Mystery, and Neil used to play this game where they would approach a set and see what boring subjects they could get away with. Great example, Mystery game's a girl out on the VH1 set talking about google earth. I mean come on, google f'in earth! If you're enthusiastic, incorporate pauses, changes in your voice intonation and sound generally interesting, it WILL hook the set's attention. This is Mystery's strongest point, it's the fact that he's so captivating, he's one of few people that can talk AT me and still hold my attention for over 45 minutes.
Another Important point with approaching (something taught to me by Asian Playboy), is STICKinG YOUR APPROACH. Too many PUA's out there get nervous before they approach and when they're in set, they still have the jitters. Everytime you approach, stay in your set as long as you can. Great motto "blow me or blow me out". You really need to approach every set as if you KNOW you're going to close the chick out. If you don't go in with that mentality, you'll kill yourself while you're in set.
The final important point in the approach is getting in state. Before I go out, I workout and rock out to loud music, go to the club, get a shot or two ( don't get drunk ), and the bam, I'm ready to game. You want to be the most fun guy at the club when you're there. They always say "fake it till you make it", I respectfully disagree, I don't think that faking it works in the bar, you cant fake having a good time, a girl will pick up on that very quickly, beleive me. My biggest milestone in pick up wasn't getting the #'s, the makeouts, etc etc, it was learning to have a great time in a loud club full of strangers. It's intimidating at first, but learn to have fun when you're there and it'll become much more emotionally sustainable.
Happy Hunting!
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